{"id":60,"date":"2013-01-23T22:13:53","date_gmt":"2013-01-23T22:13:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heartformarriage.com\/blogs\/brad-s-thoughts\/aligning-conversations\/"},"modified":"2013-01-23T22:13:53","modified_gmt":"2013-01-23T22:13:53","slug":"aligning-conversations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/new.heartformarriage.com\/index.php\/2013\/01\/23\/aligning-conversations\/","title":{"rendered":"Aligning Conversations"},"content":{"rendered":"

Somethings you wear what you want to drink . . . or at least that\u2019s what I was beginning to think when I recently got a new coffee tumbler. \u00a0My old one was suffering from random drips so I opted for a new one that was made a bit differently. \u00a0The old one allowed you to drink with the tumbler in any direction . . . a full 360 degree experience. \u00a0The new one had only two holes, each about 90 degrees of open, but no visual cues as to where they were at any particular time. \u00a0Without a handle or any other reference point I was guaranteed to pick the mug up and inadvertently pour it down my cheek as I tried to drink. \u00a0Perhaps I am just inept, but the lack of a clue where the openings were was a major problem. \u00a0I grabbed a Sharpie marker and fixed that by giving myself a little visual clue in the lid top. \u00a0So far it has held up against the ravages of the dishwasher. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The misguided cup incident came to mind as I realized an issue my wife and I had a few weeks ago in communication. \u00a0She had some issues with a late bus that caused her to be out the door late from work. \u00a0Then as she picked up our daughter from her mom\u2019s house she got stuck in traffic and delayed further. \u00a0She called me and informed me of her woes, and asked me to relay that information to our daughter should she call and wonder where she was. \u00a0I made mental note of that and proceeded to finish up my work day as well. \u00a0Later my wife and I had a great amount of discussion about her feeling of being swamped in tasks. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We later were talking about this and I realized some things we missed, just like I had with my cup. \u00a0When my wife thought she was communicating a need, I thought it was just a statement. \u00a0My mind didn\u2019t read that as a clue to offer to pick up our daughter, and she was sure that she had communicated that clearly by her actions and statements. \u00a0I totally missed the alignment marks, and she missed mine as well. \u00a0Together we were just spilling facts and information over each other but without aligning ourselves and realizing what we both actually meant. \u00a0What have you recently implied or said that has went totally off the mark with your spouse? \u00a0Perhaps you both need to sit down and get your own alignment marks to avoid spilling over on the other. \u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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